Dealing with Criticism on Plastic Surgery
Society seems to always feel very free to comment on other people’s choices in life, and not comment in ways that would be productive and/or supportive, but rather with much negative criticism and preaching. Plastic surgery is an especially sensitive topic, and one that has not yet been accepted so easily by everyone. Ignorance, a lack of research, and also a lack of general understanding for other people is leading many to spew hate on people who have undergone plastic surgery. Although we are starting to see some changes in this behavior, it seems as though it will take quite a few more years before we can stand shoulder to shoulder with each other and fully support our own choices in life.
WHATEVER DECISION YOU MAKE, IT IS THE RIGHT ONE
Have you already had plastic surgery? It was the right choice. Are you about to have plastic surgery? It is the right choice. Have you decided that you don’t in fact wish to have plastic surgery? That too is the right choice. Why? Because whatever choice you decide to make, it will be the right one for you and for your body. If you have spent enough time thinking about it, truly thinking about which way you want to go without taking the outside world into consideration, then you have very likely made the choice that will make you happy in the long run. Although many things may not seem right at the time, what you need to understand is that the only person who can, and who has the right to make any decisions in the end is only you. Rash decisions are certainly nothing to be marveled at, but carefully considered ones are. Plastic surgery isn’t for everyone, and yet at the same time it is also the best possible choice for some people. If you know in your heart that you will feel happier after having any kind of procedure done, then you will feel happier.
Because plastic surgery is usually done for the improvement on external appearances, start by taking a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. Quiet your mind, shut out everyone else, and just spend some time with yourself and the area of your body that you feel uncomfortable with. Take a pen and paper and write it down. Write every detail about it down. How you think it looks, how it makes you feel, whether or not a change in this feature would improve your life or not, how it will merge with the rest of your body, and most importantly, how you want to change it. Be as detailed as possible, spend as much time on this task as possible, and then set it aside and forget about it. Live your life as you normally would for the next ten days, and then come back and look at the list again. Now take a new sheet of paper and write down whether or not anything has changed in your opinion. Do you still feel exactly the same about it, or has anything managed to change over the last ten days? If you notice that your opinion on the topic is quivering, it is a sure sign that you are yet to choose the right path for yourself, and perhaps that part of you that seemed so bad in the past now doesn’t look as negative as it once did. Repeat these steps as many times as it takes until you come to a final conclusion. And when you do, on your own, and without the influence of anyone else in the world, you will know that it is the right choice.
MAKE A LIST OF YOUR OWN VIEWS ON PLASTIC SURGERY
If society has had any influence on your opinion about plastic surgery, then you will need to clear it all up before you take on this journey by yourself. As with anything else in life, there are both positive and negative things about plastic surgery, and you should do your research before you move on to make a more serious choice. First, divide the positive and negative aspects of plastic surgery as you yourself see them and from the information that you have gathered up to that point in your life. When you are done with both the positives and the negatives, start doing your research to discover whether or not the opinions on plastic surgery that society has placed on you actually correlate with the truth or not. Read research papers on plastic surgery, discuss it with people who have already undergone plastic surgery, and schedule an appointment with a plastic surgery clinic to get as much information as possible. You will often find that plastic surgery procedures are often followed around by many stereotypes that aren’t always true, or at least not to the extend that people and the media like to portray it. Is there only one kind of look for double eyelid surgery as many claim? You will find that the answer is an astounding ‘No’, and you may also be surprised to discover just adjustable it is for each individual. The most frequent questions that people have when it comes to these procedures is the recovery time, and also whether or not the incisions will change over time. These are all very valid questions, and you should make sure that you know the answer to them before you continue with a procedure. But you should also be aware that the world of medicine has become so advanced that incisions are now able to effortlessly blend into the skin and heal without any scars, and that the recovery period for many procedures has been greatly reduced with medical advancements. Adjust your knowledge on the specific option that you wish to take, and then apply it to your final decision to see whether or not this is the right choice for you.
SHUT THE DOOR ON THOSE WHO HAVE SHUNNED YOU
Every decision in life requires a clear head space, and plastic surgery is no different. Create an environment where you will feel free to talk about your worries, and also one that is comprised entirely of people who are ready to give you sound, honest advice, and who will support you in the end regardless of your final decision. Negative people will do nothing more than fog your choices and may actually stir you towards making bad ones. Shut them out, try to ignore their words, or better yet, if you know that these are people who will certainly not be supportive, don’t even tell them about what you are going through at the moment. The less distractions you have from the outside world, the easier it will be for you to make a decision that is guided by your own intuition and opinions. So always remember to pick your advisers carefully and to follow your own mind.
Perhaps even more importantly, choose the right destination for your plastic surgery. Depending on how complex the procedure that you wish to take is, you may choose to do it under the guidance of Korean plastic surgery, or you may realize that you do not need to go that far to achieve your desired look. Korea is one of the most supportive environments in the world when it comes to plastic surgery because it is such a common occurrence and because it is now not regarded as big deal. But you don’t need to go as far as South Korea to feel support. You will discover that you can also find it in your current country if you can take the time to do so. There are many specialized doctors in the world who will be able to provide you with professional procedures, and there are also many plastic surgeons who have moved from South Korea to other parts of the world so that they can be closer to the patients from their own region. It is generally thought that plastic surgeons who are from Asia and who have received their training in Asia will be more proficient with procedures that involve patients from the same region, but ultimately, it is not the origin of the doctor that makes him qualified, but instead the training that he has received over the years to get where he is now.